Trish Morris

The truth is this: struggles with intimacy are common in long-term relationships. Difficulty in this area does not mean you’ve failed as a partner or that your relationship is beyond repair. More often, it means there are tender places that need care, safety, and understanding.

The holidays tend to magnify what is already there. If you’ve been feeling tired, stretched thin, or emotionally vulnerable, Christmas can intensify those feelings rather than ease them. There is pressure to be grateful, to be happy, to show up fully for others, and to create meaningful memories—sometimes at the expense of your own well-being.

If you find yourself dreading family gatherings, bracing for tension, or feeling “not good enough” by the end of the day, you are not alone—and nothing is wrong with you.